Are You a Writer or Want to Be?

Are You a Writer or Want to Be?

Write up a storm!

I have had a passion for writing for as long as I can remember. I think I wrote my first poem when I was four or five. I really got intense about writing poetry during my high school years, when I first became acquainted with angst. I rarely shared it with anyone as I had already learned that I would never “be a writer”. I did not find favor in the eyes of my English teachers or college professors and I somehow came to believe a writer had to have a “gift” and I just didn’t have it!

It didn’t stop me from writing, at least for myself.  Journaling helped me keep my sanity through  heart breaks and the difficult twenties.  More angst.  It was also probably my joy of writing that made up for my other deficits when it came to completing my college and grad school course work. I was able to take the little bit of time I spent on research and spin it into a twenty page paper in a flash and usually got a decent grade. I didn’t consider this a gift at the time. I considered it luck.

Writing is just in a person’s blood. I think that’s the only part of it that is a gift. The rest is just plain hard work and persistence; it’s writing until you’re good at it or until you no longer have anything to say, whichever comes first. Writing is a craft.

So if it’s in your blood, write on! And, forget the naysayers both real and imagined.

Three Things A Writer Should Never Do

When You Want to Make a Difference

When You Want to Make a Difference

The older we get the more compelled many of us feel to make a difference in the world we live in. Once I  finished the bulk of the whirlwind years of child rearing I was ready to embark on a different sort of adventure. In time I zeroed in on those things that are most important to me and launched my writing and consulting “career”. I don’t know which I enjoy more, the writing or helping other women, like myself, find and do what they love to do.

Many of the women over fifty that I have met in my travels are equally committed, not only to doing what they love to do, but to using their gifts and passions s to making the lives of others better.  They are expanding their hobbies, crafts, skills and abilities, and starting businesses, digging deeper into benevolent outreach and taking advantage of their time, energy with enthusiasm. I am humbled to be a part of such an amazing generation.

There has never been a better time to extend our reach.  The internet and its many social media venues has provided us with a platform for connection and expansion. If you have a business, a hobby, a conviction that you would like to share with others, Aging Abundantly is here to support you. We provide tips, tools and coaching support to help you obtain your dreams. If you are struggling or feeling stuck, I promise there is an answer and I will help you find it.  I have spent endless hours mastering the internet and social media marketing (not that it can ever really be mastered!) and enjoy coaching women who are interested in using this medium to reaching more people with their business or project.

You may also find my copywriting, editing and other writer’s support services helpful to you. For writers, an objective perspective can be a tremendous boon to a normally solitary endeavor. For those of you who need content for a website or blog, or advice on improving your writing skills for this purpose, I am here to help.

Contact me for more information or a free consultation via email.

I believe in YOU! You can make a difference!


Dream Large with Pinterest

Dream Large with Pinterest

A month or so ago, Pinterest was not anywhere near the top of my “to do” list. It wasn’t even on it! I was standing in defiance of the latest social media trend that threatened to steal even more time from my day and suck more life out of what creativity I had left! Curiosity, however, got the best of me. (Not to mention the constant nudge of the savvy social media gurus who haunt me.)

I have to chuckle to myself now as I remember the running commentary in the early Pinterest days, mostly by men, about how it was a platform for “girls” and “mindless creatives” (really, is there even such a thing??). How very little such commentators know of the vast and powerful creative force! Now, I’m happy to say, bah humbug! And smugly be grateful I’m a female born with the gift of being able to see something beyond the linear horizon. I invite you to do the same, if you have not already.

Pinterest is the perfect venue upon which to create a dream board, for your work, your project or your life. I attempted several dreams boards, or vision boards, as some call them in the old fashion cut and paste way. I even completed several small ones but I always felt limited by my choice of pictures. I do not buy magazines, particularly the ones with the most beautiful pictures (also more expensive), and I never took the time to track down where I might find free magazines. Pinterest offers, absolutely free, access to the unfathomable array of photos and graphics that only it can assemble and make available at our fingertips. (Think of all the trees we’re saving as well!)

Creating a dream board will fire up your creativity and help you obtain a new perspective on things. If you are unfamiliar with the basic concept, you will find more info in an article by Martha Beck, who is a huge proponent of vision boards.  I urge you to give it a try. And now Pinterest makes it so easy! Using a virtual venue won’t give you the feel of scissors, paper and glue, but it will give you plenty of visual inspiration.

You are welcome to visit the meager beginnings of my dream board. You might want to follow it because it is going to be awesome (at least to me!). Maybe it will inspire you too.  Please send me an invitation to yours as well. I have no doubt you will inspire me!

Shelley Webb, RN ~ “The Intentional Caregiver”

Shelley Webb, RN ~ “The Intentional Caregiver”

Shelley Webb, RN is “The Intentional Caregiver”.  With more than 30 years of experience as a Registered Nurse, RN Case Manager, Geriatric Care Manager and caregiver to her father, she has a wealth of experience both personally and professionally. Her understanding of the myriad facets of caregiving puts her in a unique position to offer support and guidance all who care for aging parents and loved ones.

A consultant, coach and adviser to caregivers, Shelley is passionate about helping others find a way to simplify, calm and enrich their lives in the midst of  trying circumstances. She believes that by being intentional about the caregiver role, an experience can be created that is not only survivable but enjoyable and meaningful.

As “The Intentional Caregiver” and President of The Eldercare Support Groups, Shelley and her network of experts have become the definitive source for educational materials, encouragement and successful strategies to enable the caregiver to create an easier, less stressful and even more rewarding life. She is also a volunteer advocacy ambassador for the Alzheimer’s Association, a panel expert at (a new online health and wellness platform created by Dr. Mehmet Oz, and Jeff Arnold – founder of WebMD), as well as a speaker, and an expert writer for several on-line “boomer”, aging and caregiving resources.

You can catch up with Shelley on Facebook,  ,  Twitter @ShelleyWebbRN , and/or Share Care

For more information visit her website: The Intentional Caregiver



Sundowning is a pattern of behavior that occurs in the evening after the sun goes down in elderly people with dementia or Alzheimer’s.  You may notice that your charge, who may be somewhat lucid during daylight hours, loses ground in the evenings. My mother exhibited this behavior in varying degrees for about six months before she died. I did not understand what was happening at the time and once I did it was easier to handle.

The first time I experienced sundowning was one evening while I was visiting Mom at her apartment in the retirement community where she lived. She had not been doing well and recently had a fall. As we sat together, eating dinner and watching TV, she abruptly turned to me and asked, “Where is your Dad?”

My father had been dead for eight years at the time.  I studied her face trying to discern what information she was looking for. She was quite herself and lucid during the day at that time and I was caught completely off guard. I didn’t know how to respond.  Should I tell her the truth or go along with her delusion? I stumbled my way through it that night reminding her that he had died. She looked surprised and upset that no one had told her of his passing.  The question resurfaced again and again, in addition to others.

Sometimes I merely said, “He’s out” and she would go back to whatever it was she was doing. Other times she would push and prod until I told her the truth and then she would cry, every time it was if she was hearing of his death for the first time. It was painful for both of us.

Dementia is usually caused by illness or mini strokes that have damaged a person’s brain cells. Sundowning is thought to occur due to the correspondent damage of a person’s circadian rhythms, the internal clock that regulates the body’s physiological activities over a twenty four hour period.

There are several things you can do to try and minimize the effects of sundowning.

  • Keep the person active and awake during the day as much as possible. It makes it easier for them to fall asleep in the evening.
  • Plan activities during morning hours and keep the afternoon activities calm and simple.
  • When possible make sure the person receives morning sunlight and increase interior light before dusk.
  • Keep your loved ones life and surroundings simple and uncluttered. A sudden change or move can make it worse.
  • Sometimes confusion can be caused or aggravated by dehydration or hunger. Often the elderly turn away from food and drink, increasing the likelihood of deficiencies.

Most of all, knowing that sundowning exists can be tremendously comforting. I wish I had known then!


The Gypysnester ~ Life After Kids

The Gypysnester ~ Life After Kids

Veronica and her husband Dave were unwilling to spend a single moment feeling sad that their kids had flown the coop.  They decided that instead of being “empty nesters” they were going to be “gypsy nesters” and wander the globe, untethered and free.  You will find their journey and a whole lot more on the Gypsynester website. With a delightful sense of humor you will not only be inspired but thoroughly entertained. Here’s more on their philosophy.

Visit the Gypsynester website to read about Veronica & Dave’s travel adventures. Keep up with their day to day activities on Facebook and/or Twitter @Gypsynester